A lot of people seem to want to make the institution of marriage substitute for a real relationship.

You never go into a marriage expecting to get divorced. You go into a marriage expecting it's going to last forever, and you have a lot of ways you dream about the future. You have all these expectations, and then you have to adjust those expectations, and it can be a very unnerving, confusing time.

I don't know what makes a marriage work. My husband and I don't have it right at all it's very tough on him. From the outside it looks like it's all about me - I have a glorious career and he doesn't.

After 14 years, it better be a real marriage, you know? We do have a great time together. We are really lucky.

There are going to be peaks and valleys in everything - in your marriage, in your job, in your life. So just enjoy the peaks and ride out the valleys. Just try not to do anything too rash.